Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

This was an insightful and validating read, especially for anyone who has grown up around emotionally immature or unavailable people. I read it and then re-read it after it was recommended to my husband and me, and it helped us better understand certain family dynamics and why they can be so difficult to navigate. The book offered clarity and reassurance, along with practical ways to protect emotional well-being and approach relationships with healthier boundaries. It’s a thoughtful resource for anyone looking to break old patterns and move forward with greater self-awareness and intention.

This is an eye opener for me. Self reflection is what I am going through after coming out of a toxic relationship with someone who I valued as my best friend. As I read this book it helps me to understand people better and reflect on myself as a parent of adult children. The friendship that ended helped me to see patterns that were different from mere words helped me to awaken and to be aware of unacceptable behaviors I felt I had to tolerate to remain in a toxic situation. As I read this book, it helps me to see this person’s bad behavior being stemmed from a result of a lack of emotional detachment from her parents. I too see that in my own backstory from my now deceased father. He took care of me physically as being a good provider for our family but I so craved his attention and love. I felt unseen and he was probably raised up in the same environment. I am now 68 years old and this book is a great read.

This book is a literal life changer. It was amazingly useful and easy to understand. I recommend it to anyone struggling with anxiety or loneliness or difficulties with processing parental relationships

This book was just what I needed to read right now; in fact years ago. There were many insightful sections that I had realized some time ago that were reaffirming to see in print. Written in easy to understand languge with out sounding too basic and cited many examples. I think this book should be mandatory reading for alot of young people if not all.

To take a big picture of life, it seems we are evolving towards a point where doctors and therapists are finally telling people what is up, as opposed to hedging around it and allowing people I guess to come to conclusions on their own after they have been presented with the information. From a Socratic method - I do understand this in that people do learn better when they come to their own conclusions. That being said, this book does a pretty good job of spelling things out clearly and concisely. Parents are not often the paragons to whom children must submit because they happened to shoot them out of their penises; instead, parents are often flawed and selfish, and a selfish person - regardless of if they are a parent, thinks of themselves first to the endangerment of their own children. It is at this point the book diverges. Yes, it does a very good job of then following what these children from selfish parents are, what they are like, why they do the things they do, and why they continue to make the same mistakes in their lives and in adult relationships through what the author terms as "healing fantasies." However, it pulls punches on the parents in that it does not condemn their behavior, perhaps because it is not in the scope of the book nor the author's work, but bad parents cannot be good people - even if they are a pillar of the community. Trying to search for good in a selfish, bad parent is what creates the author's "healing fantasies." That being said, this is still a good book for children of these parents in that identifies their characteristics, from where these come, how to identify selfish parents, and what to do about it. This is important, but it does not go too much in depth how to turn this around - if for no other reason than the relatively short length of the book, and again, as I mentioned in the beginning, this may be because the author feels the reader should be presented with this information and then move on it themselves, which does indeed have some merit...

I got this book in part to read for myself, but mainly for my partner, whose parents are incredibly toxic and controlling. It has helped us open our eyes to many things we went through growing up that were NOT okay! Extremely helpful for boundary-setting as well. I think this is just a great read overall for self-reflection and improvement, even if you don't THINK your parents are emotionally immature.

It was a gift but I think everything is good

This book is a must!

Produktrezension: "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" Das Buch "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" ist ein äußerst hilfreicher Leitfaden für Erwachsene, die in ihrer Kindheit mit emotional unreifen Eltern aufgewachsen sind und mit den Auswirkungen dieser Erfahrungen umgehen möchten. Der Autor, Lindsay C. Gibson, ist ein erfahrener Therapeut, der auf die Dynamik zwischen Eltern und ihren erwachsenen Kindern spezialisiert ist. In diesem Buch deckt sie verschiedene Arten von emotional unreifen Eltern ab, wie distanzierte, ablehnende oder selbstbezogene Eltern, und bietet Erklärungen und Einsichten darüber, wie diese Verhaltensweisen das Leben ihrer Kinder beeinflussen können. Ein Hauptvorteil dieses Buches ist die Klarheit und Einfachheit, mit der Gibson komplexe psychologische Konzepte erklärt. Sie verwendet Beispiele aus der realen Welt und Fallstudien, um die Dynamik zwischen Eltern und Kindern zu veranschaulichen und den Lesern dabei zu helfen, ihre eigenen Erfahrungen besser zu verstehen. Ein weiterer positiver Aspekt des Buches ist die praktische Herangehensweise an die Heilung. Gibson bietet konkrete Strategien und Übungen, die den Lesern helfen sollen, ihre emotionalen Wunden zu heilen und gesunde Beziehungen aufzubauen. Sie ermutigt die Leser auch, sich selbst zu vergeben und Mitgefühl für sich selbst zu entwickeln, während sie den Weg der Heilung beschreiten. Das Buch ist gut strukturiert und leicht zu lesen. Gibson verwendet eine klare und zugängliche Sprache, die es auch Personen ohne psychologischen Hintergrund ermöglicht, die Konzepte und Ratschläge zu verstehen. Die Kapitel bauen aufeinander auf und bieten einen klaren Weg zur Heilung, wobei jedes Kapitel spezifische Themen und Herausforderungen behandelt. Es ist wichtig zu beachten, dass dieses Buch keine schnellen Lösungen oder Wundermittel verspricht. Die Heilung von emotionalen Verletzungen erfordert Zeit, Geduld und Arbeit. Das Buch bietet jedoch einen wertvollen Leitfaden und eine Quelle der Unterstützung für Menschen, die sich mit den Auswirkungen ihrer Kindheit auseinandersetzen und den Weg zur Heilung einschlagen möchten. Insgesamt kann ich "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" allen empfehlen, die in ihrer Kindheit mit emotional unreifen Eltern aufgewachsen sind und nach Heilung suchen. Das Buch bietet wertvolle Einblicke, praktische Strategien und ein Gefühl der Gemeinschaft für Menschen, die ähnliche Erfahrungen gemacht haben. Es ist ein hilfreicher Begleiter auf dem Weg zur Selbstheilung und zum Aufbau gesunder Beziehungen.

Easy psychology for everyone, explains emotional needs.

Amazing book. Very clear, full of real stories and useful exercises. Enlightening on some of its paragraphs. A must read