It Didn't Start with You

Great read to know about family dynamics and transgenerational trauma healing.

Nice book for people struggling with inter generational trauma..

It has been an intense journey with this book. Truly amazing. Thankyou so much for writing this. I feel safe

It helped a lot understanding generational trauma.

What a beautiful book. If everybody reads it and follows it properly , I bet there wud be no traumas and fears left in this world.

Very informative and knowledgeable

This one is a real page turner. There is so much food for thought. It helped me to resonate better with my childhood trauma and recognizing its source. I would recommend this book for anyone who has either begun or wants to begin their journey towards discovering themselves.

An eye opener about how our connections are so deep routed that our thoughts and feelings are governed by how we have handled these connections. This book gives the needed techniques to unbind ourselves from the web and get out of the traumas we have carried for so long.

A colleague of mine encouraged me to read this book, when I was working in a forensic high secure hospital - I was busy learning about trauma based therapy and this book has played a great role in helping me understand my patients and a lot about myself as well.

Ordered this out of interest in epigenetics and family patterns, and it ended up being one of the more impactful books I’ve read on the subject. The core idea—that trauma can be passed down across generations—really comes through in a way that’s both accessible and thought-provoking. It connects emotional patterns with inherited history in a way that makes you look at your own story differently. What stood out most is how it frames epigenetics in a practical, human way. It’s not just theory—it walks through real examples and gives language to things people often sense but can’t quite explain. After reading through it, it definitely stretched how I think about behavior, memory, and what we carry forward from previous generations. I wouldn’t say I agreed with every interpretation, but that didn’t take away from the overall value. It’s the kind of book that makes you pause, reflect, and revisit certain sections. Compared to other books on epigenetics, this one stands out for how personal and applicable it feels rather than purely scientific. For the price, it’s a great value. There’s a lot here, and it’s the kind of book you’ll likely come back to rather than read once and move on. If you’re interested in epigenetics, inherited patterns, or understanding deeper family dynamics, this is a strong read.

Lo leí antes de este boom que están teniendo las constelaciones familiares. Me ayudo a confirmar muchas dudas/teorías que yo estaba teniendo sobre mi persona y de cómo lo estaba relacionando con la forma de ser de mis papas, tíos y abuelos. Me dio calma al saber que no me lo estaba imaginando ya que si existe el impacto que dejan y forman tu persona.

cool book

Well written, plain English description and examples, backed up by all the links and research references. Could be a breakthrough for many people. The unease you carry could have been installed in earlier generations and never "discharged" , hence it can reside in you. You can get rid of it.