WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES: EXPANDED NEW EDITION - A Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice

I first read "Why Men Love Bitches" before reading this, on the suggestion from a friend who swore by it (she followed it throughout the dating process with her now-husband, who, coincidentally, is a gorgeous man). On such a great recommendation, I had to at least read it and check it out. I won't go into great lengths about it, since this is a review of the second book, but it is an incredible read that will seriously change any nice girl's life!! Having loved the first book so much, and being that I do hope to get married someday soon, I went ahead and ordered the second book, this one. It was at least as good as Argov's first book, if not even better. First off, I need to address the basic idea behind this book (as well as her first), because I think there are probably a lot of women out there who will be put off by the title and dismiss it just for that. These books are not really about being what people typically think of for the term she uses - it is not about being mean, rude, spiteful, bitter, or any of those things. What it really is about is just loving yourself, maintaining your dignity and pride, living and loving your life, and how doing all of that will earn the respect of any man (as the author says and I do agree with, no man is going to marry a woman he does not respect). The book is brilliant because most women (myself included, in the past) believe that once they meet a man they are into, they need to put their lives on hold and make him their number one priority to keep him around. Ms. Argov advises the exact opposite, to keep living your life in a way that makes you happy, and that men will actually respond to that. That is basically what this book (as well as her first) is about - putting yourself first. Women are also made to believe that mindblowing sex (and the sooner, the better) is also important to "snagging" a man. Again, completely wrong, and this book instead stresses the importance of appealing to his sexual imagination, which basically means him being sexually attracted to you, but also not getting everything off the bat and instead "giving" yourself sexually in increments, so that you appeal to his imagination and he gets to enjoy the chase. I have to say though, even though the principles behind her advice are all great, I will not lie - some of the things you have to do, they're hard!! It's hard to not obsess when the man you like doesn't call for a few days (and he most likely will test you this way, because that's what they do - they test you to see how you'll react). It's hard not to ask why you haven't heard from him, where he was last night, is he seeing anyone else, etc. etc. It's also hard to not sleep with a man too soon that you are really attracted to (especially when he is trying to get you to). But if you can force yourself to stay disciplined, it WILL work. Now I am going to provide a personal testimonial. Not only do I know someone who has used Ms. Argov's advice to now be married to the man of her dreams, but I am currently dating someone that I have been using the exact principles advised in Argov's two books. I have only been out with this man six times now - still kind of early to know how it will end, so I can't tell you that, but I can tell you how well it's gone so far. Last night (my most recent date with this man) I went out with him and do you know what happened? I get to his place (it was my turn to go to him, I do NOT just go to him every time like I might have before discovering these books), and he had prepared a candlelight dinner for me. Prior to my arrival, he called to find out what kind of food I like/ don't like, he wouldn't let me help prepare it or clean up afterward. Sixth date, mind you - I know women who are married who have never had their husband prepare them any kind of dinner, let alone a romantic one. He also told me (before I left) how unbelievably attracted to me he was (not the first time either - I as well as others who have read this book know that part of that is because of me being somewhat "unattainable"), how he always has a good time with me, and how interesting he thinks I am - he said most women, he likes the kissing and all of that but after that he usually doesn't want them around, but that with me, he actually likes my company. My response? I just smiled, and said "Thanks. You know I always have fun spending time with you too" (others who have read these books know why "fun" is such an important word). I mean, the guy is practically gushing all over me - and not while trying to grope or score with me while saying all this (very critical fact). It's important to note that this man is sexy, successful, and could probably have just about any woman he wants. And I truly believe it is because I have been following the basic principles Argov presents in her book. I can also tell you in the past, when I did NOT do what is suggested in this book, things did not exactly work out. I was always that girl who tried too hard but got taken advantage of, who gave my heart and didn't get much back, who basically did all the work if it did get to the point of a relationship, or many times, before things got too serious, was told, "There's just something missing", etc. etc. So I am a total believer in Sherry Argov's books. I know I've written a lot but I want to make it clear to all of you how truly amazing this (and her other book) really is. This really is what to read to "convince the man of your dreams that you are the woman of his dreams". It works, it works, it works, it works, it works! I can't stress it enough. I hope every marriage-minded woman out there goes and reads this book because it truly changed my life. If there were a dating religion out there to follow, this would be the dating bible!!!

Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself. Her previous book - Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and do not take for granted. Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too. For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire. The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage. As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice to keep the relation-ship from hitting the rocks, and to secure the glittering rock. What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can. The BEST advice in the book is how to initiate the conversation that will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. It would certainly work without alienating. It would work on me, and could certainly work for you. Ideally, it would be best to have a few different approaches to pick from. I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making. Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question. Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at [...]. So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck. I trust you find this helpful.

Women are taught all the wrong things about men and how they think. This book makes it very clear how to vakue yourself as a woman and live your best life, and also how to become the partner a good man is looking for. It's not the stuff we're told in magazines or any of that. It's about being strong and capable, being able to think for ourselves and help a man's life, not weigh him down with demands and burdens. It's about being someone he can get honesty from, someone he can trust to handle things, and someone who isn't using him. I recommend this to all women who hope to he a true partner with a man.

Has helped me so much in this dating world! Fun to read and easy to understand! Helped me to realize my worth! Highly recommended!

I found the book captivating yet precise in the inforational catagory. Since the info was very helpful in my personal situation I devoured the book in one afternoon. I like the Relationship Princips overview in the back of the book, that made it possible to go back time and again to remind oneself what needs to be done to capture a mans heart, rather than follow our instincts. Sadly, men are so different from us that, when I practiced these principles they worked so far for my relationship! I say sadly for, one wishes one didn't have to play 'hard to get or reach' to capture a man's heart, but this is the harsch reality of men being from Mars and women from Venus. It isn't easy to apply the principles, but a fun challenge nevertheless! I don't feel it necessary to use bad language in the written word to bring ones thought across, but sadly many books contain these. This one as well. The 2nd chapt. Title is "Make him chase you... UNTIL you catch HIM" Yet, throughout the book she emphecises, that a man should never feel completey secure that he actually 'has' the women. In other words, even AFTER she catches Him, she should make sure that he feels the need to chase her. Though I agree with her after reading the info, I think this makes the Title "until" invalid. I think the book could elaborate more on the 'after' she catches him, and should take under consideration in it's writings, that not all women sleep with men before marriage.

Such an easy read. Finished the book in my spare time in 2 days. Exactly what I was looking for.

I think a lot of people don't care for this book because they don't pay attention to the subtitle on the cover: "A Guide for Women Who are Too Nice." If that doesn't sound like you this book might still be useful (especially the chapter on the tests men put women through), but this might just not be the book for you. In this book "bitch" means a woman with self-esteem and a happy lifestyle that she actively tends to. And because the bitch is happy and has self-esteem she knows what kind of behavior she will or will not accept from others and has the strength of character to walk away from anyone who tries to use or abuse her with feminine dignity. It does not mean acting like an a$$hole or using other people. Just want to clear that up. If you're the kind of woman who is constantly at a man's beck and call (he calls you 3 hours or less before he wants to see you for a "date", and the date is actually just a netflix and chill date at his place). Is afraid of voicing her opinion (a man asks you what kind of restaurant you want to go to and your go to response is "whatever you want sounds good, anything is alright with me.") Thinks cooking a man a gourmet meal (and afterwards having wild sex with him) in the first month of dating is a surefire way to get a man's love and respect this book is for you. To some, the woman I just described might sound too ridiculous to exist, but I've personally seen women who really are simply too nice, too fast with men and are honestly confused why their home cooked meal made for a man on the second date hasn't landed them a boyfriend/husband. While I didn't go to that extreme, I have personally been guilty of accepting lame dates that required no planning whatsoever at the last minute and being afraid to ever express a negative opinion of something lest I offend a man. More than any other book on dating this book helped me date with more self-esteem and boundaries. This is a very practical book for women who tend to get walked all over in dating and relationships. Whether it's due to low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, or an overarching need to please men at all costs this book gives you a good reality check. Many women think the fool-proof way to get love, respect, and commitment is to lavish attention and care on men very early on in the dating process. This book talks about how yes, men do want attention and care from women, but they want that attention and care from a woman of principles with a backbone. Men will happily have sex/take advantage of a 'yes woman,' but they rarely love those women and it's even more rare that they want any kind of long term committed relationship with those women. Women think being extra nice and agreeable about everything will get them love and commitment, but the reality is that being a push over means you will never get a man's respect. And if a man cannot respect you he certainly cannot love or commit to you in the way you probably want him to. I think this book is also invaluable because it talks about the tests men put women through. I'm not sure if all men test women, but I've observed the behavior described in this book in some of my friend's relationships so I know at least some men test women. Lots of books for men talk at length about the tests women put men through and very few books ever acknowledge that men test women just as much. It was seriously such a breath of fresh air seeing something not only call out the testing behavior of men, but also gives suggestions on how to handle it without being walked over or annoyed to death. Even women who aren't too nice can find these tests difficult to deal with which is why I'd still recommend checking this book out to any woman.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Sherry Argov's books!!! (A "Bitch" is not an evil, nasty female, but a strong, approachable woman who knows her value and is ready and willing to leave a man if he does not treat her the way she feels she deserves to be treated. She is not a doormat and won't be treated like one. At the same time, she's beautiful on the inside, and brings a lot of desirable qualities to the table.) I think of this book as a conversation with a funny, thoughtful, honest BFF who shares with me the things our moms would have told us had they grown up during this era. It's no secret that most of us as women have been taught to be doormats and pleasing and accommodating in relationships (even to our own detriment), and to feel like we are at fault if the relationship fails. This book helps us understand so much about relationships, like.... we should never be or act like doormats in order to become a part of or maintain a happy, healthy long-term relationship; how a man can interpret our comments/conversation and actions (for example: us showing too much interest and enthusiasm for a committed, long-term relationship too early could be considered desperation for a future husband); that a man, through our words and actions, is assessing the type of life he will live if he were to marry us; that we have to realize that men think differently than women do - so, we need to learn how to communicate in a way that will get them to *hear* us rather than dismiss us as nagging. Let’s not make them think we want a breathing body to fill the slot of the groom, so we’ll settle for any guy who treats us half-way decent. Let’s make them think we are the prize (because we are the prize and therefore we need to act like the prize), and they need to win the honor of our hand in marriage. We aren’t desperate for a husband. We are Bitches with honor and respect for ourselves, who are looking for a partner who will celebrate us as we celebrate them. Buy this book if you want to become the best version of yourself as a partner in a healthy, loving long-term relationship...and laugh while learning how!

La verdad me gustó más ésta versión que “por que los hombres aman a las cabronas”, es divertido y tan fácil de leer que lo terminé en un fin de semana. Está bueno pero lo recomiendo como complemento de Not Your Mother’s Rules

Extremely truthful and insightful. Tells you what you need to hear rather than what you wanted to hear. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who centers herself, is fun loving and comfortable in her own body. I’ve learned a lot and agreed with a lot in this book.

Very good book… must read !! Especially for younger adults , I wish I followed this advice ages ago. Thanks

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