The Relationship Skills Workbook: A Do-It-Yourself Guide to a Thriving Relationship

After a slow start, I found this book outstandingly helpful. Simple concepts and so tricky to implement. The workbook character helps develop the skills.

Helped my husband and I tremendously Very grateful!!!

Very readable. So much wisdom packed into each chapter. Practical exercises. A great workbook for couples wanting to get their relationship back on track.

The ideas in this book can revolutionize how you relate to your self, your loved ones, and your world. Right here, in this little workbook, for $15, you can can learn to notice all the rules, expectations, and well defined roles that have controlled your life to this point, and discover instead who you really are and what you really want. Then you can discover who your loved one really is and what he or she really wants. Your most important relationship is with yourself, so this workbook begins by helping you discover what your body is trying to help you know about yourself: I'm scared, I'm angry: I wonder why? (hint: its not someone else's fault). Then, if you want to love and be loved, this book helps you learn what your loved one is feeling, what he or she really wants. And with that new knowlege, the book helps you see how both you and your loved one can both get what you want - not getting what you want by blaming or creating rules and expecations, or sacrificing your wants for the other, but by making genuine power-equal agreements. The ideas in this book take practice; you won't relearn old habits overnight. But that is why the workbook format is so helpful: it offers you the questions to think about, journal and wonder about so that you can explore YOUR issues and YOUR life. There's gold in this book; every chapter has some new idea that can help you live your life in a genuinely happier place.

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Reading this book brought so much perspective and shined a light on where I can do better with clear ways to actually do it. It’s helped me explore deeper parts of myself and find more understanding for others. It really helped me see things differently that I truly felt confused about how to even begin changing what I was doing that wasn’t working. Thank you for creating this book!

I have been reading many books on relationship skills after going through a difficult divorce. By far this is one of the most exciting and easy to understand books on relationship skills that I have read. As a yoga and expressive arts instructor, I agree that coming into the body to awaken to what we are feeling is key in every relationship. In my yoga classes, I know that it takes time to understand what wave of emotion is moving through the body by listening to the sensations of the body. Julia B. Colwell, PhD, states, "The whole function of emotion is to deliver data to you about how you are experiencing what is going on around you. That means that when it has communicated its message, emotion is designed to move on through, like any good messenger." Julia's approach begins with listening to our bodies in order to identify our emotions as we communicate with one another. I love how Julia honors our emotions and honors our bodies by having us tune into their internal messages to create healthy loving relationships!!!